I am trauma-informed and people-centered. Intersectionality and structural marginalization is heavily emphasized because we overly identify as an individual when our circumstances often involves cultures and dynamic bigger at play. We should not feel personally bad for this occurring at a structural level, we need acceptance and awareness. I am anti fat-phobia, anti homophobia and trans phobia, awareness about internalized misogyny, homophobia and transphobia. I believe in body acceptance with however you choose to treat your body in whatever shape you’d like to be, which should never be judged. If you wish to change your body I will support you but emphasize empathy, speaking nicely to your body, and acceptance that body changes often require steep financial or time commitments. I support plastic surgery and GLP1s if that’s your pathway it doesn’t bother me but we can discuss any feelings about it. I do practice confidentiality with the only exception being if you tell me you are going to harm yourself or someone else I will triage or call support with you.

I will ask to give a hug at the beginning of meeting sometimes if intuitively it feels like one of us needs it or I happen to be in a hugging mood wanting connection. I will never touch in any other context than it being requested or consented to.

If you request touch, and with your goals it seems therapeutically supported we can have one way touch that moves into two way mutual touch.

I will not ask clients to undress, you are free to request that you be nude during coaching and it won’t be sexualized but just a shared intimacy. You are not permitted to masturbate simply because nudity is introduced.

Polycules of any size will be the same price per hour.

I keep paper notes with no written name and I give out session reflections electronically that are stored on a Google Drive.

Tracking. We will learn and practice the skill of checking in with ourself to understand growth and comfort. Tracking can then be a skill you use in BDSM and intimate relationships.

I was born in 1993 in Berkeley, California and lived in East Bay suburbs until I was 18. I did international volunteerism and LGBTQ advocacy workshops. I came to Minnesota to St. Paul 15 years ago to be a Macalester student. I didn’t like the school and left to study sociology and criminology at the U. My favorite class was constitutional law.

With my degree I worked in Domestic Violence client services until I decided not to work in the non-profit sphere. I was a trauma informed caregiver next and also started dancing at Executive Lounge/PRYMD as a curvy dancer. I left dancing and focused my life on the practice of boundaries and consent.

Now I live in South Minneapolis and travel to Omaha and Boston monthly. I worship cats, drink white tea, take naps, and engage spiritually daily full time. I like saunas, restorative yoga and BDSM. My hyper fixations are all genres of study as I struggle with hobbies using my hands and will attend occupational therapy for my autism about it. My special interests are s*x work, tantra, BDSM, chakras, criminal justice, anti-abuse advocacy, THC entrepreneurship and herbalism.

I work with poly partners who have intimacy issues to the point that it is healthy to do so for me. I am exploring play partners and group play. Sexually I am exploring my sensual reactions to eating spicy foods as warm up to intimacy and sexuality. This is featured on my Onlyfans.com/c01lectingmen.