Unlocking Desires Needs a Scavenger Hunt

Maybe it’s repression, shame or neglect but you’ve realized you have not confronted, accepted or embraced your true desires or at least not all of them. It needs deliberate action, attention, awareness and trust to move forward. What you do is this, start one or several parts of your body and connect to when it feels good our arousing. What makes your hand light up when you touch something in a sex shop, your lips tingle and pucker as your people watching with your moctail, or your gut get aroused as you get up to start walking after your meal? What ideas percolate? What sounds yummy? Connection to hands and touch is a major part of Surrogate Partner Therapy as your hands can build eroticism within yourself and intimacy with another person. So it starts with noticing and attention and then it needs to be followed by awareness. At some point it’s best to sit down with pen and paper.

Conscious awareness is taught in meditation which I practice daily and encourage everyone to involve themselves in because it creates transformational thinking and awareness your physical, mental and emotional environments. You basically need to aggregate your information gathered from exploring your hands, lips, gut and the rest of your body including genitalia. This can be as simple as what do you remember has turned you on in the last 2 months. Keep a note in your phone if you’re really wanting to be thorough. Continue your life long scavenger hunt of what wakes you up, makes you perky, hard, wet and tender. The next part is trust, trust you will remember, trust you will say yes, trust you will keep yourself safe and trust the exploration is worth it. When you want to bring in deliberate action again, I promote Wiccan practices and manifestation techniques that use writing to transform what you want into what you’ll do to make it your future as true reality. Say out loud in future tense “I will be exploring” if after meditating you decide sexual exploration of say your desires for trans women is what you intend to do. The brain will preselect for you experiences of exploration because it was primed and it will look for data that fits that verbalized outcome. I do this intention setting in every Tantric Massage, available here.